Why #wanderlust Doesn’t Work for Me

No #wanderlust

When I tell people my plan, they always get so excited and start telling me all the places they would like to see. That’s cool. I get it. I want to see some cool places, too, but…that’s not what this is about…for me, at least.

I see the hashtag #wanderlust popping up all over the place, and paired with it are awesome pictures of singles and couples wandering the different countries in any means they can.  They use old vans, redesigned school buses, cars, campers, tents, etc. Totally cool.  I think they are all awesome, courageous and living their life by design…right on.

However, I have used the #wanderlust tag in the past and every time I kinda feel like a fraud. Like it doesn’t feel genuine for me. To me, it represents travel and wanting to be somewhere you aren’t… that your soul needs to wander and explore..once again…totally cool with all of that.  But for me, this isn’t about the travel and wandering, that’s just a really cool byproduct of the life I want to live.

For me, it is more about cutting ties with what and how society says you should live. It’s about taking a step back and looking at life…really looking at it…and realizing how we are living now is such a crazy concept.  The more I can really look at it all, the more crazy it seems.

I mean, here is a pretty normal scenario for a mom (or dad)…

MORNING -Get up before the kids, rush around getting ready for the day, get the kids ready, maybe have time to scarf something down real fast for breakfast (or just get fast food on the way to the office), rush out to drop kids at school and then work…

WORK DAY- You are here at least NINE hours out of your day…NINE…yes, one hour is for lunch (how nice of them to allow that), but sometimes even that is taken up with a “work lunch” or meeting with clients, etc…, so still not entirely your time. You have a “work husband” or “work wife”…you are with your work “family” more than you are your OWN family…who decided that? That is really a messed up concept that we all just accept because that’s just “how it is”.   So after your NINE hours, you get to go home.  This will require, for some, sitting -just sitting- in a car for an extended amount of time waiting for traffic to clear so that you can actually get home.

EVENING- You get home, tired from working all day. Little Timmie has a billizion activities that he’s in so now you are driving him around all night to practices, etc, and…even though he’s only 6, when he gets home, he has homework to do. You are too tired to cook dinner (who can blame you?) so once again, fast (fake) food to the rescue.  You give him a bath and it’s off to bed. Well, that was fun- you were able to spend what…maybe 2 hours with him all day? A little in the morning, a bit when driving him around and finally at night before bed…   Then you are exhausted at that point, so you turn on Netflix and binge watch whatever.  You go to bed, wake up and do it ALL OVER AGAIN.

Oh but wait…on the weekends, they give you TWO WHOLE days of freedom…wow…that’s so nice.  But then, normally, you are either so tired you still just binge watch something on Netflix OR you are so busy trying to get all the things done that you can’t get done during the week…laundry, errands, grocery store, etc.

Then, come Sunday afternoon / evening, all the posts start on social media about how tomorrow is Monday and how bad “it’s going to suck”, and “what happened to the weekend”, “it went by so fast” …what are we doing? Like does this not seem crazy to anyone else? This is what is expected of us. This is supposed to be OUR lives.  Like we live in little boxes (that are starting to all look the same #boring) and we drive in little machines to go sit in a bigger box to work all day. There are sometimes of the year, we don’t even hardly get out in natural sunlight because it’s dark when we get to work and dark by the time we get home.  We sit under  “artificial” light each day – wha?

Screw that.

And, if you want to go even further on how crazy society is…(I’m on a roll now…lol)…next time you go to a store or mall, really look at the signs and words they use.  Think about them. Think about how they are totally shoving things down our throats all the time and we just don’t even think about it. We don’t question.  All the bright colors they use and bold fonts…to get us to buy stuff we don’t even need…like at all.  Yes, we need food and some supplies, but 90% of the junk at stores is just that- junk. It’s pretty and shiny and they tell us it is going to solve a problem so we obviously have to have it, right…wrong.

They hire marketers and strategists and experts; they know what verbiage to use, what height to place the item on the shelf, where to put the items for “impulse buys”, what colors to use to evoke certain feelings, how to reach their “target audience”, they use focus groups and agencies , they use information on our shopping habits from the internet so they know what ads to place in front of us when we are online again….like, it’s just insane.

Look around at the world and really see all the ways we are sold to. Billboards, people holding signs, radio ads, tv ads, junk mail, businesses trying to get an email when you buy something so they can send you more crap, cashiers asking if you’d like to apply for that store’s credit card when you are making your purchase…like it’s all so crazy to me.

But nobody questions it. They just keep buying.

I really could go on all day…lol..but, so I don’t drive you too crazy, I will bring this to a close.  Yes, I am excited about seeing all the new places and traveling around, but I am so much more excited about being “free” from the ties of society. Really. I am so looking forward to just “being”. Just living. Just spending my time on this planet they way I want to. I’m looking forward to getting back to nature. Felling sunshine on my skin and grass under my feet…connecting with the planet we live on..not just the junk that infiltrates it.

And no, I am not doing LSD…lol…but I do like what Timothy Leary said  in his 1983 autobiography, Flashbacks, about the whole “Turn on, Tune in and Drop Out” mantra…

“Turn on” meant go within to activate your neural and genetic equipment. Become sensitive to the many and various levels of consciousness and the specific triggers that engage them. Drugs were one way to accomplish this end. “Tune in” meant interact harmoniously with the world around you – externalize, materialize, express your new internal perspectives. “Drop out” suggested an active, selective, graceful process of detachment from involuntary or unconscious commitments. “Drop Out” meant self-reliance, a discovery of one’s singularity, a commitment to mobility, choice, and change. Unhappily my explanations of this sequence of personal development were often misinterpreted to mean “Get stoned and abandon all constructive activity”.

I mean, seriously, people, think about this… this is your time here; your journey on this amazing rock that is floating n the universe.  If you are content with your life and you like working to buy more stuff and that’s what makes you happy, then rock on…seriously…to each his own and I am super happy you are good.  If you really dig the 8-5 lifestyle and feel it’s for you, then I could not be happier for you.  It’s just not for me. It doesn’t make either one of us better or worse than the other…just different…and different is okay. 🙂   All I hope to achieve from this post is to share my point of view…and, if I can get just one person to step back and start questioning things a little,  that would be super cool, too!   Peace out 🙂



6 thoughts on “Why #wanderlust Doesn’t Work for Me

  1. Great piece, thought provoking. Your righ, we need to break away from what society wants us to do, how it wants us to behave. We should just live our life!


  2. Jake

    I don’t know much about Timothy Leary other than what I read in Hunter S Thompson books, but I really like the the excerpt you shared about ‘turn on-tune in-drop out’. Ever since reading ‘into the wild’ my views on the way we live have changed and I envy your awareness and activism to lead a better life for you. Keep up the blog, it’s nice to hear someone else articulate similar feelings.


    1. Hey Jake! Thanks so much for the comment! It’s nice to know not everyone thinks I’m crazy! lol 🙂 And I have heard of that book “Into the Wild” and the story…thinking I need to check that out! Thanks again and here’s to a great day! 🙂 Peace!


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